DR.MF Nkabinde
Choose Well, Choose Life
Introducing Choose Well, Choose Life- A Guide To A Purpose-Filled Life For South African Teenagers, a new book that aims to assist South African teenagers to weave through the information clutter to make good choices for their lives. Good informed choices will assist young people to harness all the blessings God planted in them at the time of their conception. Taking cognizance all the psycho-social problems confronting our country, this book is absolutely essential to rebuild our moral fabric and build a sound moral foundation for our nation.
The book is written from a medical, religious and cultural perspective all of which are in firm agreement about human behaviour that leads to desirable outcomes in one’s life.
The book aims to:
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Empower young people to take control of their God-given destiny.
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To give them tools to avoid being blown all over the place by existing winds and shifting sands of man’s opinions.
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To highlight the barriers that keep the youth from harnessing all the dreams, the future and the blessings God planted in them at the time of their conception.
South Africa’s children need to know that they are fearfully and wonderfully made, that they have a God-given place under the sun. Choose Well, Choose Life addresses all social ills confronting our children today that put them at odds with God’s plan for their lives. These include premature sexual activity, teenage pregnancies, rebellious behaviour, addiction to drugs, alcohol and pornography, fatherlessness and breakdown of family units.
In this book Dr. Nkabinde tackles many difficult issues with brutal honestly. She believes that its only by telling raw unadulterated truth with kindness, that young people can make the right choices. Choose Well, Choose Life answers every question a teenager will ever ask and much more and is the best gift you can give to your teenage son or daughter or soon to be teenager. The book is designed to open up communications between parent and child about all issues affecting teenagers. Both child and parent ought to read a chapter a week then sit down over the weekend and discuss that chapter with the parent bringing in life experiences the child might have been exposed to in their immediate environment as examples.
The book is a great resource for adults involved in youth ministries such as primary and high school teachers as well as church personnel who seek to equip the youth with skills to prepare them for the future. With her extensive experience and expertise, Dr. Nkabinde is well positioned to write this book. She is a medical doctor and a specialist obstetrian/gynaecologist with deep knowledge and understanding of medico-psycho-social issues affecting young people during critical stages of development. She is a mother and by God’s grace has raised five children through very turbulant times. she has first hand experience of all the issues she discusses in this book.It is her hope that this book will help young people to make good choices, unlock the dreams God has for them, and claim the future they deserve.
WHAT IS THE BOOK ABOUT
CHAPTER 1
GOD CREATED YOU FOR A PURPOSE:
This chapter highlights that we are not here by mistake, that God created us for his own purpose, and we are here to fulfil that purpose.
CHAPTER 2
PRMATURE SEXUAL ACTIVITY
The chapter defines what is premature sexual activity and why It Is unacceptable.
CHAPTER 3
SEXUAL HEALTH RISK
The chapter defines sexual health risk and explains why assessment of sexual health risk for each
Individual patient is an important part of the consultation at the doctor's rooms.
CHAPTER 4
CONSEQUENCES OF PREMATURE SEXUAL ACTIVITY
The chapter explains why premature sexual activity is such a big societal problem and does not just affect only the young people and their immediate families.
CHAPTER 5
Rebellious Spirit
The chapter defines rebellious spirit, explains why it has such disastrous consequences for the young person.
CHAPTER 6
BROKEN FAMILY UNITS, SINGLE-PARENT HOUSEHOLD
God's design is that every child should be born within wedlock, raised by two biological parents living under the same roof. This is the best environment for every child and provides a stable pad from which a child can launch himself into the world
CHAPTER 7
ADDICTION TO ALCOHOL, DRUGS, PORNOGRAPHY AND SEX
Various addictions and all forms or substance abuse have disastrous consequences for everyone, especially a young, developing brain. The chapter highlights why and how these should be avoided
CHAPTER 8
IDLE MINDS, IDLE HANDS (LAZINESS)
Idle minds and idle hands make one a target for all things destructive evil
CHAPTER 9
SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED INFECTIONS AND DISEASES
In this chapter, various types of sexually transmitted ailments are discussed, how they are contracted and how they can and should be avoided.
CHAPTER 10
CONTRACEPTION ( FAMILY PLANNING)
Various types of contraceptives are discussed, and common side effects are highlighted.
CHAPTER 11
ADOLESCENCE
This chapter explains the adolescent period, the Influx of sex hormones and their effect on adolescent behaviour, bodily changes and why adolescence can be an interesting time in the life of a teenager and should be embraced and managed accordingly.
CHAPTER 12
GENDER AND SEXUALITY- A MEDICAL PERSPECTIVE.
This chapter explains gender identity and sexuality issues and assists young people to weave through the information clutter that is so overwhelming in social media spaces.
CHAPTER 13
THE TEN COMMANDMENTS
The ten commandments are outlined, explained, and their importance in the moral grounding of nations is
highlighted. The Ten Commandments are a blueprint for righteous living.
CHAPTER 14
USEFUL STATISTICS: HOW DO WE FARE AS A COUNTRY?
Various statistics and their implication for the well-being of our country and its citizens are outlined.
The statistics show how we can change the direction of our country for the better simply by modifying our behaviour for the benefit of everyone.
Chapter 15
LET'S TALK ABOUT IT
This chapter covers case studies, real-life events from which the youth will learn that choices have consequences not only for themselves and their immediate families but for the country as a whole.
CHAPTER 16
PRAYERS YOU MAY FIND USEFUL
The chapter covers prayers for various situations.
CHAPTER 17
CHOOSE WELL, CHOOSE LIFE: A TEACHER'S PERSPECTIVE
A teacher writes about her experiences accumulated over a period of over 37 years in the teaching profession.
CHAPTER 18
CONCLUSION